me dwelling

Why is it so easy for what i say to get twisted!? I guess its context but then i have to explain myself and it was honestly me just speaking my mind in the first place!!!
it will be so much better when i don't have to write letters! ya I'm still on this, but i talked to J's mom today again and i told her what he had misread and then she said well i hope thats not the case considering I'm spending the money to get you there to see him and again i had to explain myself! when the whole point was the fact that he read it wrong!!
why cant i learn to shut up? and why do i have to dwell sooooo much!!??